In today’s culture the only emphasis on love is about feelings, all our movies, TV shows or books
depicts that love should be this all consuming and overwhelming kind of emotion and when you have it
that means that you are with the right person, but if you don’t have it or it goes away you are with the
My question is; how do feelings tie in with decision making?
Do not get me wrong feelings are amazing, you need romance; you need to feel love, because when it
happens you are not in control of your feelings. It develop unexpectedly and that’s what I thought.
Recently, I had a very interesting conversation with an individual who after so many years dropped a
bomb on me when he revealed to me how he has blocked possible feelings he had for me because of
what he was going through and his mindset at that specific period in time. And today he feels like he is officially ready to settle down and get married.
Basically what this means is that he made a decision not to tickle those feelings that he had for me.
This actually made me think if it’s possible that one can decide on when to love someone or when not
to love, can it be a decision or is it just a feeling that is unavoidable?
Is love actually a decision we
make as human beings?
What is love at first sight? Because when its love at first sight it unavoidable. You get glue to this
individual without you realising and without any decision, but here is this guy telling me he is willing
to love me better now because be is emotional ready . Although, he was open enough to give
respectable reasons to why he didn’t pursuit what he felt for me I just felt he actually didn’t love me
like he said he did and it was just simply lust ,but a topic for another day.
Well, this is was an eye opener because I realised that I can’t base my love merely on feelings because
feelings do change.
The decision comes in where you have to make a choice to continue loving this person.
And if you ask me; love is indeed a choice and not a feeling.
Michael Rain is a Television Production student and professional Dancer, contact him at : email@example.com